Welcome to the HeartLift Method

Today is a great day. You have made the remarkable and really brave decision to take the very first step on your Heartlifting Journey. I say brave because it is a proven fact that changing old narratives is hard work.

I can only hope that my story has somehow informed your story and invited you to venture out of the negative narrative, words, or labels that have kept you from fulfilling your God-breathed destiny. Together, we will walk through all three phases of The Heartlift Method™.

Phase 1: REFLECT

The present pain of your heartrift begs the questions, “What just happened?” and “Why is this happening?” The very first step in becoming “WHOLE,” is to welcome God into the whys. Somehow, His gentle presence softens the blow of hurtful words and negative narratives. Here in Phase 1, we learn that “above all else,” we must guard our heart because it influences absolutely everything in our lives (Proverbs 4:23).

Phase 2: REFRAME

The past fault lines—your past hurts—ache to understand, “Where did all this pain come from?” Healing happens in layers. Phase 2 examines, processes and makes meaning of these oft-confounding layers, known in The HeartLift Method as your “History of Hurts.” As you work through your “heartsift” and ultimately, the life-changing “heartshift”—your heart will awaken to truth. This truth leads to true freedom.

Phase 3: Re-Author

Our future freedom depends on how we answer one question, “Will I ever trust again?” In this third phase, you will look at the words within the five-letter word, trust, and learn all about the three-fold cord of trusting in God: God is trustworthy, God is dependable, and God is safe. By God’s grace and the hard work of Phase 3, the power of your heartlift comes and helps you re-author your story.

Buy the Book

Are you ready to get started? Grab your copy of Overcoming Hurtful Words: Rewrite Your Own Story, a journal and pen, and take a few deep breaths. That’s right. Breathe in, breathe out. Your heart is in for some much-needed love and care.

Jeffrey A. Kottler, Ph.D.

So often change occurs from stories that we read, hear, or see, whether they include family legends, myths, fairy tales, novels, films, television shows, plays, song lyrics, or even blogs. It turns out that because of mirror neurons we can experience vicarious life events as if they really happened to us. As far as your brain is concerned, the people you ‘meet’ in stories really are your friends and loved ones. And the adventures you enjoy through fiction and stories really do teach you important lessons. The strong emotions you feel during a well-told story further cements memory and help you to retrieve information in the future, all without leaving the safety and comfort of a chair.”